The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/HairRevolutionary673 on 2024-05-16 18:00:27.

This is my first time using reddit so I’m sorry if I’m doing it incorrectly.

15 years ago, I lost my job and was struggling to pay rent. I asked my brother if I could stay with him while I got back on my feet. His response was a blunt “no,” and basically told me to deal with it myself. I was devastated and ended up couch surfing with strangers. This really affected my self esteem but it motivated me to do better as I had no one else to rely on.

Fast forward to now, my life has improved drastically. However my brothers life has not. He has been jobless for a while now, and his wife is a stay at home mom. I didn’t even know about his situation until recently. He asked me if him and his family could stay with me while he looks for a job. I agreed. I have an extra bedroom that my nephews could use, and I didn’t want to see them struggle.

They’ve been staying with me for about two weeks now. Last night, my brother brought up how he refused to help me all those years ago and he expressed his gratitude for my help now. He just venting to me about how he felt and I was trying to sympathize with him because I can understand how he feels especially since he has kids now.

He thanked me again and I told him it was no problem, but I also mentioned that if it weren’t for my nephews, I probably wouldn’t have helped him. He just laughed it off when I said that but then he stopped laughing when he realized i wasn’t laughing and then it kinda got awkward.

Later that night my husband told me that he believes that I shouldn’t have said that as It probably made him feel worse about everything. I felt as if I was just being truthful. I feel as if my nephews weren’t involved I probably wouldn’t have allowed him to stay.