The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/No_Chain7696 on 2024-05-07 13:57:51.

AITA for getting mad at my fiance for lending money to his friend? So for preference I am a cis woman, my fiance is a trans man. He worked in the medical field so a lot of his friends are female, he says that he feels more comfortable being friends with females than males. I try to be very understanding about this. So he has this female friend that he met at his previous job, they apparently became very close and she was there for him when he didn’t have much. A few months ago my fiance was working at a hospital. He didn’t get paid much, I made a little bit more money than him. Because of this we would rarely go out. And I would buy our stuff (toiletries, toilet paper, napkins, groceries etc.) because he would always say he didn’t have money for that. I suggested we go half on stuff since we already splitting our bills, I pay my half, he pays his. Once in a while he would offer to help, or buy us takeout. Or we would go to the movie theater and he would buy our tickets I would get the snacks. Well a few months ago he decided he couldn’t stand working at that hospital anymore and quit, he has been doing food delivery in the meantime. Yesterday he mentioned how everything has been going ok for him and how his friend, the one I mentioned before, is going to pay him his money back. He mentioned how back when he was working at the hospital his friend mentioned she was struggling having 5 kids and wanting to go back to school. So he lend her $200 to help her out. I got upset and told him that I was paying for everything that we need even HIS stuff that he needs like shampoo, body wash, toothpaste because I knew he didn’t have any money but he had money to lend to his friend?? This of course led to and argument. He said that I’m just mad because she is a female and I’m just toxic and jealous. But no, I feel upset because this entire time I thought he was struggling, and was buying him all these things so that he doesn’t struggle but here he is lending out money he supposedly doesn’t have. So, AITAH for getting mad and overreacting??