The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/anonymous-carrot-pot on 2024-04-29 21:57:38.

i don’t really know how to do these this is my first time but i hope this reaches the right people. i am 20 yr old f and my bf is also 20. but yet him and his friends are very immature. i have begged him to start changing and grow up with me since we were 16. nothing has changed. still sits at home all day playing his xbox with his friends and completely ignoring me. like i want to get my life together and move away and have a family. become normal people. when his friends came over i literally asked him and his twin to keep everyone out of the room while i’m sleeping as it makes me uncomfortable. this morning i log onto his snapchat account and found that his friend has sent him a photo of me sleeping. i was fuming. i woke up my bf and asked what the deal was and why there was a photo of me and his reply genuinely makes me angry.

“oh yeah haha. forgot to tell everyone to stay out sorry”. now you see in that situation i have to keep myself calm because if i get mad he turns around and blows up in my face and makes everything my fault and i’m the bch for getting angry first. it happens all the time. i get the slightest bit mad. to the point where ik dam well u can hardly tell i’m angry but he sits there and screams and yells at me like no tomorrow and then when i go and uh play fruit ninja it’s “ur such a manipulative person are you serious?” i don’t know what to do anymore. i’m tired of this. his family sits there and says that i’m too mature and that i wear the pants in the relationship but they go and say that i’m a needy bch and that i’m too sensitive and that i need to eat more or i need to eat less, like just typical stuff old people would say to you. but the main thing is my bf and his friends. his friends have sat there and called me a whale over and over till i cried when i’m 5 ft and literally shaped like an hourglass. i don’t know what to do about it. i feel so unheard and like i can’t talk to anyone. i have tried sorting it out with my bf but he either goes off at me or tells me he’s going to change but he never does. be honest am i just being sensitive or aita or is there actually something wrong here?