The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/ForgivenessIsNice on 2024-04-29 21:34:57.

My partner—who is 26 and does not live with me but rather their parents and brothers—was involved in a car accident in January 2024, and their car was totaled as a result. My partner did not purchase another car until April 2024, mainly just due to trying to find the best offer/a nice car that they want - not due to an inability to afford a new car.

For background, I make about 4-5x more than my partner, and I pay for virtually all dates/outings/vacations without splitting the cost. I gladly do this and do not mind doing so whatsoever. Also, we go out basically every week, and I not only pay for but arrange everything we do together. We have been together for about 9 months, and in that time they’ve only arranged and/or paid for 2 dates - out of the perhaps 60-80 we’ve been on by now. I have never brought this up as being an issue of any kind.

Now, last week, after my partner finally purchased their new car, they said I was “selfish” for not letting them effectively have my car given that they drive to work everyday while I work for home and my car effectively collects dust in my garage. My partner never asked to use my car for work during the 4 months they went without a car, but they said if I weren’t “selfish” I would have volunteered to let them use my car all throughout the 4 month period.

For further background, in around October, my partner’s brother had their car broken into right outside their house, where my car would have been stored had I given my partner my car during that four month period. This was a factor in me not volunteering my car to my partner during the four month period when they did not have a car.