The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/DelsinMandela on 2024-04-29 21:17:01.

I should preface by saying we have a relatively healthy (but new) relationship, with a few arguments ements recently, but nothing crazy or foundation shaking. My girlfriend has pink eye. She knows I’m a little freaked out by transmissible diseases, being a healthcare worker. I don’t go crazy, but I always try to minimize contact. She was at work when she figured out she got it from her kids. I said, half-jokingly “that’s irresponsible”. She said “it’d be irresponsible of me not to go to work silly” (to provide for her kids.) she’s a waitress. I was more just thinking about food and drink handling. She said it’s fine if nobody knows she has it. Near the end of her shift she asked if I wanted to come to pick up her boys from daycare. I said yes as we had recently expressed missing each other. I get in the car, and I just ask her if she has hand sanitizer. She got some out, used it for herself, I held out my hand, expecting her to squeeze a little on my hand, if not right away (she’s driving), then when she has straight road and is able. She held it over my hand, literally tipped it upside-down, then righted it before any came out, got flustered and lost it on me because I asked her to pour it on my hand. I didn’t exactly want to do it myself, but I would have if she nicely, or even annoyedly said she couldn’t focus on both. Instead she yells and says I’m being overly-anal. I try to explain that I simply was trying to minimize exposure risk, and she yells that she understands exposure risk because she has kids and that I should have stayed home if I was so worried. I’m raising my voice a little by this point. I said there are steps between staying home, and rubbing my eyes against hers. She yells again that I should have stayed home. She said this is insane I quietly, but audibly said yeah this is. She screamed can you stop speaking, like this is insane. I said again this is. She said you’re making me so mad I just wanna drop you off on the side of the road (in the middle of nowhere by now). I said yeah me too (I meant mad, not side of the road. I see now how this could be ambiguous but it seemed pretty obvious to me) and she came screeching to a stop and is literally screaming louder than I’ve heard anyone scream in a while at this point “okay get the fuck out”. And I said “I meant you’re making me mad too, not that I want to get out” and she yells a couple more things and pulls out saying “I’m gonna be late picking up the kids, I’m just gonna grin and bear it and I’m dropping you off after we pick them up”. She seemed so convinced I was in the wrong for wanting to do what I felt was best practice. Is the risk of transmission just something I’ll understand when I have messy kids of my own? I’m not like agoraphobic, I’m in college, I’m not avoiding them with a ten foot pole. I just figured if she’s pouring it into her hands she could pour it into mine, and we wouldn’t have devolved into such a shitty evening.