The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Dramatic_Engine_9439 on 2024-04-29 13:32:32.

I will keep this as clear as possible. My daughter used to be married to Ryan. Ryan cheated on her and they divorced. During the divorce my daughter learned she was pregnant. She informed me she wasn’t going to tell Ryan and I thought she was joking. The baby was born and she was telling everyone that Ryan abandoned the kid.

I couldn’t do it, even if he was a bad partner my grandkid deserved to have her father in her life. So I told Ryan and he was pissed to be blunt. A huge court custody issue and in the end he got partial custody. My daughter went no contact due to me betraying her by telling Ryan.

Since then I haven’t really heard from my daughter. Ryan has been in contact with me, he was really grateful that I informed him. My grandchild is now 4 and during his custody time he will sometime visit me. I am very happy to have a relationship with my grandchild and try to be a good grandma.

I got a call from my daughter calling me a dick, that if I had any respect for her I will stay out of her kids life. Ryan informed me that legally she can’t do crap about this situation. So the moral question is am I jerk for being in my grandchild’s lie even if my daughter hates it.