The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/UndefiedDuck on 2024-04-28 23:15:59.

My mother in law (64F) and daughter (16F) have never gotten along. Recently, in the past year my daughter has had quite a sudden change to a punk goth sort of style. My mother in law has deemed this change to be “unacceptable” and has caused many issues for no apparent reason.

About a month ago my daughter came to me and told me about the multitude of different threats and comments she had been making to her behind my back. After that conversation I confronted her about what she had been saying and she just shrugged it off saying she had been busy and wasn’t thinking properly, I decided to give her the benefit of the doubt and just asked her not to make any further comments.

Two weeks ago I came home to my daughter sobbing in the living room, after about 5 minutes of trying to comfort her I found out that my mother in law had gone into her room and ripped all her posters off the wall and thrown out her favourite hoodie (a Metallica one). When she arrived home I confronted her yet again, telling her if she ever pulled anything like that again she would be kicked out of the house.

Yesterday she made a comment calling my daughter a “satanist” and stayed that she would pay for it. When my daughter went upstairs later that night she found that a ring (her mother’s) was missing. So we looked for it for hours and I had a thought to check my mother in laws bag, and there it was inside her purse. This for me was the final straw, I went to my mother in law and asked her why it was in there, all she did was smirk. I told her she had till Friday to be out the house or I’ll call the police.

My wife has barely talked to me since and her side of the family is divided on the situation.

Did I overreact?

Edit: Just to clarify my daughter isn’t related to my wife.