The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/ProfessionalRiver777 on 2025-02-23 16:33:53.

I F21 have a twin sister let’s call her Jane.Jane has recently got out of a relationship and started a new relationship fair enough for her. I am single and happy due to past experience. Jane started talking on the phone to him 3 months ago I tried to make him comfortable whilst she was talking to me when she’s been on the phone to him. Yesterday was the first time meeting him in person at the pub I was with my other older sister and her friends and asked them not to do anything around him that he may find uncomfortable. They asked me if they could ask him to get them a drink I told them no. Anyway he sits down and starts talking to me we shake hands have a bit of a small talk etc. I noticed a lump on his neck and secretly asked my sister through text if I could talk about his lump and how he got it she said no I said ok and didn’t question anymore about it . After that we start talking again I say I’m going to the pictures with my friend to watch this new film called the monkey. This is where it takes a turn he starts mocking me how I say the monkey and it really made me feel a bit insecure and mad because my twin sister heard it and she knows I’m insecure about it because I did go speech therapy but did not get to finish it as it got shut down. I try to let it slide but it did hurt me then they got into the topic about how they were going to watch moana 2 I felt sad as my twin promised me we would watch it together months before but haven’t got round to do it together. I ask her in front of him are you actually going to watch it without me. she says I promise I won’t do that and then he goes nah she will watch it with me constantly winding me up even though it was the first time meeting with each other so I had enough of him mocking me and winding me up without apologising I sent a text to Jane (my twin sister) telling her how it has upset me how he’s made fun of me and not anyone else and how I would like an apology. I did not talk to him about how he’s upset with me as I felt it might make him comfortable and how I thought it would be best if my sister took him to the side and say I think you should apologise. Anyway after I sent that text she told me he’s just fitting in that’s all. I text her again telling her how it still made me feel even if he was “trying to fit in” she ignored my text so I left told everyone I was going to the toilet and walked home. She then came back after spending the night at his and told me how ridiculous it was that he was just trying to fit in and how I walked home and put the spotlight on me. I told her I felt it was the best course of action as I did not want to argue with him or make him feel uncomfortable as he has done to me. I spoke to other people about it and they have told me I should of just confronted him and how it was degrading but Jane is persistent that I was in the wrong and how “he just wanted to fit in” AITA? EDIT: we was not constantly texting each other. It was two texts and I have problems with social cues and what to ask and what not to ask. He is also 31 and me and my twin are 21. If I wanted an opinion on my grammar etc even though I have a learning disability I would of asked