The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Positive_Chemist_785 on 2025-02-23 15:56:50.

My social life hasn’t been great for a few years now. Most of my friends are from university and live in different partners of the country to me and the friends that are close by have different work schedules than me so it’s hard for us to arrange a catch up.

This means I might go 4-6 months without seeing any friends and there are some friends I haven’t seen in years. My gf doesn’t have this issues and has a few groups of friends that she sees regularly (around once every 4-6 weeks for each friendship group).

This month I messaged a friend asking if he wants to meet up next month since we hadn’t seen each other in nearly two years. He lives in a different city so I’ll have to travel to his city to see him so I’ll be staying over.

We arranged to meet up next weekend. Another friend who lives in a town near me messaged me asking if I want to meet up the week after next as we hadn’t seen each other in a few months.

There’s also a meet up with a few friends the week after that. This is the most active month for my social life in over 4 years and it’s exciting thinking about seeing friends again. My girlfriend asked what about us making plans.

I explained that this month probably isn’t going to work as I’m busy most of the weekends as I’m seeing my mum at the last weekend of the month and that it’ll be an expensive month for me.

I said we’ll still do things after work such as going for a meal or a drink etc but we won’t be making any all-day plans this month due to my plans. We live together so we’ll still be seeing each other daily.

She got annoyed and said she should be a priority and that I should cancel one of my plans to make plans with her.

I pointed out she is a priority but that doesn’t mean I can’t go and see friends. I asked if she would think it’s reasonable for me to expect her to cancel plans just because I tell her to. She said it’s different as she doesn’t fill up the full month seeing friends.

I just repeated that it’s not like this is a regular occurrence and that I won’t be cancelling on friends. She said she’s clearly not a priority but I just pointed out it’s one month in three and a half years of being together, it’s hardly a large amount of time.

AITA for refusing to make plans on the weekend for a month?