The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Urubucuco on 2025-02-23 12:04:29.

So, I’ve been with my (Catholic) girlfriend for about two and a half year and at the start of our relationship I asked her if she was ok doing sex even though we’re not married yet, she said she was ok, but she only wanted to wait so she could be ready. I thought that was fine, bc I really liked her and I was willing to wait. But after some time, I was not that patient anymore to wait. I started talking about it with her, and she gave me all the excuses: afraid of being pregnant, contracting a STD(?), not being ready yet etc. A few days ago, we started making out, and I started to make my way for it. Took off her shirt, her pants and bra, and all of the sudden, she said she couldn’t do it, because it was wrong. As I was not understanding, she said that she lied to me about her being ok with making sex before marriage because she didn’t want to lose me. She started crying and saying sorry repeatedly, but I consoled her and managed to keep her calm. After a brief conversation, she started saying that she didn’t want to go to hell nor lose me so that’s why she lied. I felt so damn mad when she said this, but I managed to keep it to myself. Today, I was texting her about what happened and she said that she would “hold” herself for me after we marry. But then, I started saying that she shouldn’t have lied to me, and her answer was: “There’s nothing I could’ve done”. I started to argue with her, repeatedly saying that she SHOULD’VE told me about this, that wasn’t something that a normal person does and lying for that long it’s also fcking SINNING. She was only replying with sorry and stuff trying to explain herself. I started ignoring her messages to put my things in order and calm down. AITA the asshole for escalating it and saying those stuff?

Update: Sorry for not saying it, but I had asked her if I could take her clothes off and if she wanted to do that at the moment. She agreed and said it was ok. It was only Afterwards that she refused. I apologize if sounded like it was something forced. I see now and agree with most comments. I’d rather be with someone that truly loves me than with somebody else. Thank you for the replies. I’ll make sure to do whats best for her, fix my mistakes and be more comprehensive. Thank you anonymous folks