The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/CMaster45 on 2025-02-22 12:38:21.

Hi I am (22 m) and I was recently invited to my brothers (25 m) wedding, i responded no, for context there is a very good reason for me not to go to this wedding, me and my brother haven’t always been best friends but we were close, and over the year up to when I had moved out in 2023 we were constantly hanging out and having good conversations, so when I had moved out with my ex at the time I had expected him to come by to see me or atleast see my new place, I reached out to him from the beginning of July 2023 up to July of 2024 to come by and during that time I scarcely recieved texts back or updates, which I understood but I felt hurt over, once I moved back in with my mother due to money circumstances I was still reaching out to see him. Up until 6 months ago I was hoping to see him but he never made the time like I did, so I just gave up. I will always care about him but i think we’ve just been put in different places Anyways back to the wedding The bigger reason I don’t want to go to the wedding is due to his fiance (25 f), they have been together for five years and I’ve known her since I was a kid since they went to school together, for the last 5 years they’ve been dating however she has despised me without me saying more then a word to her, I don’t know what I have done to make her hate me as I’ve interacted with her maybe 10-15 times total. My brother had explained in his invitation fully well that he was going to make sure I was invited despite knowing how much Lacey dislikes me. I don’t think that he should have to put in the extra effort and energy to invite me if I’m unwelcome and I’m not very interested in going to begin with. I am happy that he’s getting married and I’m proud of him for how well he’s doing for himself, but I’m sure I can miss this event Now here’s why I might be the asshole, My mom has been nonstop bugging me about making up with him, I know she’s been bothering him too because she wants us to be close She was always close with her brother growing up She says that I didn’t work hard enough at trying to see him during the time I moved out, and I know I was busy and didn’t stop by her house much, but it’s been 2 years since then and I think he had plenty of time to reach out… aita?