The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Street_Wrangler_4140 on 2025-02-22 08:59:44.

I (29) live next door to two old coworkers, (35M) and (23F). Although I no longer work with them, we still hang out weekly—watching movies, playing video games, etc. Initially, I was closer to her, but over time, I became very close to him.

She confided in me about her secret affair with our boss (30M), which started when she was 20. He was her first love, and they’d been having an affair for almost three years. When she discovered he was engaged to someone else, things became complicated.

Their relationship became toxic. He verbally and emotionally abused her, and she spent nights crying. Despite his behavior, she believed he was the one for her. Her behavior became erratic, and she grew more manipulative and self-destructive.

The mistress (another coworker, 30F) didn’t know about the affair but ended things once she found out about the wife. Our girl, however, remained in the relationship, convinced he would eventually leave his wife for her.

A few months ago, things fell apart between them. He grew suspicious that we knew, and the tension grew. She then lied to us, claiming they were just friends, but we all knew the truth. As the guy and I got closer, she became jealous of our friendship, especially since he’d text me at work and plan hangouts without her, despite doing the same with her.

When she decided to renew her work contract, she claimed she couldn’t afford dental work or renewing her lease but spent money on travel. I had offered my couch for the last month of her contract, but after how poorly she treated me, I withdrew the offer. She stayed with the guy, though occasionally planned to stay with me, but that didn’t happen.

Eventually, she suggested moving in with him, but he insisted I move in too. Reluctantly, I agreed, since he promised me the entire top floor of the villa. It wasn’t ideal, but I agreed to live there. We set boundaries—mine was honesty, his was informing each other before bringing anyone over, and hers was “no judgment,” which felt naïve considering the situation.

A week later, when I planned to bring some furniture over, I almost caught her and the boss sneaking into the house together. They were supposed to be at work, but she didn’t warn me she would be there with him. The guy said she didn’t need to warn me since I wasn’t living there yet. I was livid, telling him that if I’d been there, it would’ve been a disaster.

I told him if I caught them sneaking him in again without telling me, I’d cancel the lease, take my furniture, and leave. I was fed up with being disrespected. I never wanted to move in with them, but I caved after persistent pressure from him. I feel like I’ve been forced into a situation by people who’ve treated me poorly, and I’m done.

Now, I’m seriously considering walking away if she disrespects me again.

AITA for wanting to cancel the lease and leave if I catch her sneaking him into my house again?