The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/kit_ten831 on 2025-02-22 07:59:17.

I 30F have been with my husband 36M for 10 years, and I first noticed his vocal tic around March 2020 when Covid started. At first, it was small-short sounds, clicks, or whistles-but over the years, it’s progressively gotten worse.

Tonight, for the first time, he had a full sentence come out as a tic, and it caught me completely off guard. I know this makes me sound shallow, but it’s really off-putting to me. I don’t want to be insensitive because I love him deeply, but l also can’t ignore that I find it unattractive. We already don’t have sex as often as he’d like, and on some level, I feel like this contributes, even though I hate admitting that. I want to be supportive, but I also feel overwhelmed and don’t know how to bring it up in a way that doesn’t make him feel bad.

Has anyone else dealt with something similar? Could this be stress-related, or should he see a doctor? I’m at a loss for how to navigate my feelings without hurting him. I already know I’m TA, I guess I’m just looking for advice.