The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/PsychologicalPlum2 on 2025-02-22 07:43:32.

I, 30 (F) and my fiancé, 29 (M) have been together for almost 3 years. We got engaged last year and I could not have been more excited. We decided to get married this year September. I told him to leave the wedding planning to me and leave our living situation in his hands, which he agreed to. In essence, he is a great guy. He is the fun guy. Very social. The main difference between me and him is: I’m the planner in the relationship. I’m also more of a prepare-for-the-future person, he is more of a chilled, live in the moment fella. Recently, we’ve been butting heads with regards to our living situation. He has inherited a family home from his late mother. Growing up, he didn’t really care much for the property. (His mom passed away when he was still a teenager). He also didn’t care much for planning for the future. I have grown up with father that have given me a certain standard and sense of security. We have spoken about adding additional rooms to the home and turning it into a space where we can bring our kids home to. At this point, his nonchalantness about our living situation is frustrating me. I don’t believe in “Just in time” solutions, especially with regards to building / extending a home. So Reddit, Would I be the asshole if I were to call of the wedding and engagement?