The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Glum_Regret_3985 on 2025-02-21 00:29:28.

I, 17F have been friends with ‘Bella’, 19F, for under a year. I am not very fond of her, but I don’t want to be rude and we talk rarely.

For context, Bella is provided with special help for her learning disability (I am not sure which one), which I have no problem with as it really is none of my business. She has also been held back two years, to explain her age.

Recently, we have been doing a project in English and were told to chose partners. Bella came up to me and asked if we could be partners. I didn’t want to be rude and say no, so I said yes, thinking it wouldn’t be a big deal.

For more context (this story requires a lot of context so bare with me), we had been working on gathering evidence all unit, so it was basically just a matter of putting it into slides. We even had an entire class period dedicated to writing out what we would put on each of our slides so it would be a simple process. Sidenote, this project was about benefits of music electives in schools, just for some more context.

Also, there were about 5 special needs kids in this class, and only one special needs helper.

Needless to say, it felt like I was expected to act as her teacher. She would frequently get distracted trying to talk about My Hero Academia to me, even though I repeatedly told her I had never watched the show and honestly didn’t have any interest in doing so, and then I would have to politely redirect her back to her unfinished work.

Another day, It felt like a chore, I highlighted everything I wanted her to use as evidence, and gave her instructions on how to format it because she kept on asking me how to do it, and it still took her many re-directions to actually do her work.

Another day, I asked her where she had gotten her quotes from, since she had cited only first names of people I had never met, and she said that they were her friends that were in music electives. I had suspicions on whether this was something they had actually said, so I asked and she said that it was indeed not something they had said, and I was honestly just kind of annoyed at that point since that literally defeats the purpose of a quote.

I asked my teacher if I could switch partners and she said yes, so I joined another group to be a group of 3, and she went to another group to make a group of 3 aswell.

At lunch, I was with my close friend and I was rambling about how it had just been pretty frustrating, and I was honestly pretty proud if myself for actually doing something about it unlike how I would usually just deal with it.

Sophie, we’ll call her, was sitting next to me and overheard, said that I was rude and that I probably made Bella feel bad by leaving groups, and I admit I could’ve done a better job at communicating my frustration with Bella, but I don’t think it was really my fault that there was not enough help to help Bella considering that she has special needs.

Her friends agreed with her and I just want to know if I was actually in the wrong for doing what I did.