The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Downtown_Ruin_3043 on 2025-02-20 20:46:03.

So I gotta give you two little backgrounds before I get to the question.

In elementary and middle school I was tormented. I went to really small town school and the queen bee decided she didn’t like me. If I made a friend she would do everything in her power to make them hate me. I was very isolated because of this and tried to hurt myself multiple times, which prompted my mom to switch me to a school a few towns over.

The 2nd background is 12 years ago I was in a really bad roll over accident. I rolled my car 5 times down a highway trying to miss a log in the road. I was in therapy and had multiple surgeries over the course of 2 years. Besides nerve damage and some scars, I’m 100% now. There was no brain damage or anything thankfully.

Onto my am I the asshole question. A few years ago I started getting friend requests or messages from people from that school. I want nothing to do with them! If I did I would of reached out on my own. Telling people I have no interest in talking to them usually leads to the question of why? It’s annoying and I don’t feel like I need to explain myself. So I started using my wreck and saying “I’m sorry but I was in a really bad car wreck a while back and most of my childhood and teenage years is just a blur so unfortunately I don’t remember you”. It works and people usually leave me alone after that.

Today my daughter is out with my mom and they ran into one of those girls. She naturally remembered my mom and started asking about me. My daughter messaged me asking if I remember the girl. I told my daughter just tell her I had a car wreck and don’t remember her. My daughter asked why and I explained it to her and why I do it.

She says I’m an asshole and my partner thinks I’m being petty and I should just suck it up and tell people I don’t want to talk to them. I think I’m too old to answer people’s questions and saying that saves me the headache and they leave me the hell alone. I’m saving my mental health! So am I the asshole for using my car wreck as the reason I don’t remember people that I don’t want anything to do with ?