The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Betta_RP13 on 2025-02-20 19:54:33.

I, 37f, have a daughter, K, 17f, that will be graduation high school in May. I am no longer with her father, S, 42m, and we haven’t been together since K was a 1 year old. Despite how we broke up(S cheated) we carried on with a good co-parenting relationship. I wasn’t a fan of his new wife, JE, 40f, at the time, and he wasn’t a fan of my current partner,JO, 42m. S and JE were together and married for maybe 12 years? Not to mention that S cheated on her with 2 girls that we know of. Over the course of 16 years, S has been married twice, engaged now to a woman he met 2 months ago. Has been in, at the very least, 30 relationships in those 16 years. S moved a few states away when K was around 13/14 years old. Never gave her his new number, never even told her he moved. This was around covid time. K’s grandpa, S dad, planned to go and visit and took K and her little sister from JE. Ever since he moved away, K hasn’t had a solid relationship with him or his family. She has 3 aunts, KEL, B, and JACK. Plus cousins. The only family member that ever reached out was Grandpa, R. Fast forward to now. S is back in our state, different town. Hasn’t reached out to spend time with K. Non of the other family members have reached out. The last time she heard from his family and seen them was at the Grandpa’s funeral. I know she wants to have that family dynamic feeling back with them, but no one is reaching out to help with anything related to Ks graduation. I have 0 pictures of that side to put in the slideshow. I have a handful of addresses to send, but not everyone’s. I would like to add that S’s ex wife, the 1st one, JE, had moved a state away, and has 2 other kids, T and JAD( K grew up with them as well). K spends alot of time with T and JAD and they will obviously be invited to her grad party, as well as JE and her family. K sees and talks to them more than anyone on her dad’s side. My mama heart is telling me to just suck it up and deal with it. Include whatever bits and pieces I have to make it special for K. Another part of me wants to leave out everything from his side. Not only leave out pics and any reminders of her dad’s side, but not even invite them. I want to only put in pics of grandpa as he was always there for her when he could be. I know what the RIGHT thing to do is, but I really want to do the PETTY thing. Just looking for advice or even if anyone else has been in this position and what did you do? Thanks Added Note: K is horrible when it comes to being emotional about anything, so I really don’t know what she wants, or what will make her happy on her Graduation Day.