The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/qk114 on 2025-02-21 13:55:01.

Some pretext, I live in the US and the person I’m seeing is in Europe. We’re not a couple yet but we’ve both decided to only date each other. When we met me made it clear we both have a crush on each other and decided we wanted to date but they didn’t want to rush into a relationship so they wanted to wait before making us official.

So the story is that they have gone to a furcon in Europe. No problem I thought and wished them well. 3 days into the convention they haven’t said a word despite me making an effort to check in and ask how they’re doing and if the cons going well. I get nothing in response. We had a mild argument beforehand and they said they’d respond when available, however I didn’t think they meant waiting till after the con to respond so I got frustrated and assumed they just didn’t want to talk anymore. They said they’ve been too busy partying to respond to me and that they will respond when they can.

Having BPD I don’t handle feelings of abandonment and I’ve mentioned this condition to them before. This doesn’t seem to change the fact that they don’t take the time to respond hardly ever.

Am I wrong for wanting them to keep in contact while at a con? Am I expecting too much?