The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/WillingFeature1007 on 2025-02-21 08:51:20.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now. Things haven’t been great for a while. At face value things aren’t bad, we still go on dates occasionally, we go on holidays and we enjoy each others company etc but it’s more like we’re roommates or just good friends than actually in a relationship. I’ve tried to approach this with her multiple times but she dismisses my concerns each time.

I realised I’m just not happy in the relationship so I sat her down at the weekend and told her I think we should break up. We live together and are both on the lease in our apartment.

She got annoyed at this and again tried to dismiss the concerns I had and tried to claim everything was fine in the relationship. I just repeated what I had already said and said we should break up.

She asked when I’d be moving out. I told her I wouldn’t be. We have 8 months left on the lease and the clause to break it is 6 months rent upfront which we don’t have. I told her I currently have nowhere to go and would not be paying rent on two apartments when I don’t need to.

I said I would look for apartments and if I find something in the future I’d move if she took me off the lease but she said it’s not fair and that I should still be paying my half of the rent. I’m down as the lead tenant on the lease and half of the rent comes out of my bank account so it’s not like I could just move out and not pay my half.

I said I’m not going to kick her out since it’s her home too and that I’m happy to have the spare room if she doesn’t want to move out but I just said I wouldn’t be moving out.

She accused me of being unreasonable and said she shouldn’t be expected to still live together. I said she’s free to move out if she wants but that she can’t force me out of my home. I said once the lease is up either one of us will go on the lease on their own or we’ll both leave and find somewhere else to live.

She just repeated that I was being unreasonable and should be leaving the apartment.

AITA for refusing to move out of my home?