The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/rayyzz8920 on 2025-02-20 02:23:40.
AITA for swearing when far from my friend when she said that she isnt comfortable with it?
For context, My name is ray and i admit, I do have alot of issues with my language. my friend “A” has expressed that she is not comfortable with swearing and i have accepted that and i have not sworn around her since.
On the bus i had a good few friends and people to talk to and obviously i would talk to them, A was also on the same bus as me and would sit near me. I swear alot so obviously while talking to my friends i would incorprate that into my sentences. On this particular day I will agree that i WAS swearing alot but at the time i didnt even realize it as it just slips out of my mouth.
A’s stop was coming up very soon and she would fall asleep alot on the bus so i looked to see if she was awake. She wasnt so i woke her up by just lightly shaking her back to get her concious. My stop is right before A’s stop so i get home before her. I walk in through the door and im just chilling on my couch watching a movie when i get a message from my groupchat including my friend group that says something along the lines of “Due to a toxic relationship I am removing myself from this group, I hope you guys (more specifically Ray) won’t be rude and spread rumours. If P (one of my friends in the group) wants to be friends with ray I’m perfectly fine with that and I’m not gonna force people to stop interacting with him, goodbye.”
Obviously i am confused and i was thinking this was about how i woke her up on the bus.
I continue to tell her “If this is about how i woke you up on the bus then sorry. I genuinely have never spread a rumour about you or anyone in my life and dont plan on it. The only thing i can understand is you being mad at me for waking you up on the bus and again im sorry for that. It would be great if you could elaborate on exactly WHAT i done so i can try and fix it.”
She responds by saying “What you mostly done was swearing, which made me very uncomfortable and anxious. Therefore im no longer being friends with you.”
Mind you, She sent these messages on my mothers phone and i was responding on her phone because my mother was confused and so was I. I respond with “If you arent comfortable with my vocabulary then maybe not being my friend is a good decision. You’ve known from the start of our friendship that I have issues with my vulgar language and it just slides out of my mouth. If you find that “rude” of me then that is a you problem and i suggest you work on that.”
I then tell her im sorry for anything i may have done and send her a picture of my contact information following with “if you would like to have a conversation about this and maybe work it out then add this contact.” I send her a message from my phone basically summing up my points and my perspective on the situation so that she may pipe down.
She proceeds to leave me on read and i havent heard from her since
So reddit, AITA?