The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Inevitable-Dig9819 on 2025-02-20 07:06:15.

hi, everyone. so i 20F just had an argument with my boyfriend 19M that made me feel really upset and made myself doubt the relationship.

we had already been having problems, and he called me tonight long after he said he would. he had a bad day at school today in which the teacher was being an ass to him. i sometimes have abandonment issues and he seemed as though he didn’t wanna be on the phone with me so i asked him if he still loves me.

and to this he sighed as though i was an inconvenience and asked, ‘what did i do now?’ i tried explaining to him that it was hurtful to respond like that, like i’m bothering him, and he hung up in my face until i texted him. he said that he didn’t feel like doing this even though i tried to explain that i didn’t want to argue, i just wanted him to acknowledge that his response to my question was overblown when he could’ve easily reassured me and communicated.

instead, he said he’s ’tired of being told what he’s doing wrong by everyone.’ and i said that ‘i don’t care what everyone else is doing.’ not in the sense that i don’t care, but that what other people do has nothing to do with me.

he said ‘it’s whatever have a nice night, i’m going to sleep.’

and i said ‘i don’t like leaving on bad terms,’ because i want to always make sure that the people in my life know i love them if we’re arguing and especially if we’re going to sleep. he said ‘all you care about is yourself.’

i said ‘what if something happens to one of us while we sleep and we didn’t leave on good terms.’

he said, ‘be quiet for a sec. i’m fucking tired of everyone, leave me alone damn’

and i said ‘alright, i love you.’

and he didn’t respond.

mind you. he has issues sleeping so i know he saw my message and chose to ignore it. he’s usually more patient and forgiving, but tonight was so weird. maybe he’s just tired of me. but i don’t care how tired i am of someone, i don’t ever not return someone’s ’i love you,’ and that deeply hurt me.

maybe my timing was wrong and i shouldn’t have asked what i asked, but i also feel that he behaved in an ugly manner. aita?

UPDATE: thank you everyone for the feedback! i took it all under advisement and i apologized to him. he hasn’t said anything but we’ll see how it goes in the morning. thank you for letting me see things in a new way!