The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/bluezberries on 2025-02-19 13:07:30.

AITAH for isolating myself because of my selective mutism?

I (19F) have selective mutism disorder, which has been a part of my life since childhood (Diagnosed at 3 years old). It’s gotten better over the years, but I still struggle to speak in certain situations—especially with people I don’t know

Lately, I’ve been avoiding social situations altogether because of it. For example, I’ve been declining invitations to group gatherings with my friends. They’ve been supportive, but I know they’re starting to get frustrated with me. I’ve told them that I’m not trying to be rude, but the anxiety of speaking in those situations is overwhelming. When I’m around a lot of people or people I don’t feel comfortable with, I can’t get myself to talk.

Last weekend, my friends threw a birthday party, and they specifically asked me to come. I wanted to support them, but I just couldn’t bring myself to attend because I knew I would freeze up and be unable to talk. I texted them and said I couldn’t make it because I wasn’t feeling well, but they all got upset with me. One friend told me that they were “getting tired” of my excuses and that I needed to stop isolating myself. I felt terrible, but I honestly didn’t know how to handle the situation.

Now, I’m feeling guilty. I know they care about me, but I’m so embarrassed by my selective mutism that I don’t want to be around anyone who might judge me for it. AITA for avoiding social events because of my selective mutism?