The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Top-Lead-2476 on 2025-02-19 00:59:37.

So me and my boyfriend would have regular nightly calls. We’re both sophomores in high school (different schools), I’m taking biology this year and I took chemistry last year while he’s taking chemistry this year. Since he’s taking chem this year I already know most of the things he’s learning and more. One night, we were calling and he was telling me about what he learned in chem that day. He learned about cancer and radiation and when people get radiation therapy, the radiation will kill any cell which it’s pointed at. I already know this but I let him mansplain it to me. My school is known to be very rigorous when it comes to classes. Especially science classes. Just to get an A in biology I needed to study everyday for 3 hours for my final, so you kinda get how hard it is. So all this studying is basically engraved in my head and I started contributing to the conversation and telling him more about cancer. He has this hyper fixation on radiation and somehow believes that it can fix many things just because he learned about it in class. So I was explaining how cancer works, proto-onco gene and tumor suppressor gene, mutations, and other factors as well. He starts telling me these ridiculous ideas how we can “fix cancer” with radiation. Which okay, you can get rid of some cancer with radiation but not for all cases and then he’s like “what if we researched ways to pinpoint the radiation into the dna and unmutate the mutation”. At this point i’m kinda losing my mind on how stupid this sounds. First of all, you can’t pinpoint radiation into DNA, INTO A SPECIFIC GENE LOL. And even if you could, you would have to do that to every single cell affected by cancer which could also lead to more cancer. So I’m trying to explain this to him, how it wouldn’t work and i’m getting really frustrated. Then he tells me more ideas and I’m just like “no that’s not gonna work”. Eventually, we’re both getting angry and he says “Why do you never believe in me??” and i’m like “I do but these ideas are just stupid!?”, then he says “fuck this” and ends the call. I obviously feel really bad and i try to call him back but he dosent answer. After a few minutes he calls me in tears and says that I really hurt his feelings that even if his ideas wouldn’t work, I could’ve at least believed in him and cheered him on. At this point, I don’t really know what to say because his family is not very supportive of him and I’m probably the only person in his life to support him. In the end, we did resolve it but am I in the wrong for proving his ideas wrong even if I was a little rude? P.S- To any biologists reading this, if I get something wrong, feel free to correct me 😭