The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/ToughCounty360 on 2025-02-09 05:23:32.

This past summer, a former friend (30M) told me (30F) he could no longer talk to me because he had always been in love with me and now had a girlfriend he was in love with. This was after a decade-plus-long friendship, during which I made it clear from the start that I had no romantic interest in him. He claimed to respect that and I believed him.

About eight years in, he admitted he always had romantic feelings for me. I told him it wasn’t healthy for him to stay friends with me if that was the case because I knew I’d never feel the same. He assured me he respected that, and we continued our friendship.

Over the years, he met my friends and family and really liked them. Meanwhile, his own friends were awful—constantly mocking his appearance (he’s short and bald) and just having terrible energy. I’m a positive person, so being around them was draining.

Last year, he finally got into a relationship, and I was super supportive. However, his girlfriend shared some oddly specific identity traits with me that aren’t common in our area. Even a mutual friend jokingly called her a “Temu version” of me.

I bring this up because when he cut me off, he did it in the most disrespectful way possible. It was clear he wanted to hurt my feelings, despite claiming to value our friendship. It was disappointing, but knowing the type of people he surrounds himself with, I accepted that this is just who he is. No real loss.

Now, here’s where my sister comes in.

I told my family and friends what happened, and they were all disgusted—so much so that they all unfollowed him on Instagram. Except my sister. She eventually unfollowed him on her personal account, but I noticed she still follows him on her dead dog’s IG. She’s on that account all the time (I see it when I log in), so I asked her about it. She just shrugged and said, “It’s just my dead dog’s account. I’m not changing anything.”

I went off on her because she constantly complains that no one supports her, even though I always support her! Yet when it comes to me, she seems to care more about appearances than loyalty. To me, this is about loyalty. Why keep following a guy who disrespected your own sister? If someone did that to her, they’d be dead to me. Now she’s being passive-aggressive and stonewalling me.

I’m trying to move on, but it’s disappointing that I can’t count on my sister for support.

AITA for even being bothered?

TL;DR: My former friend of 10+ years cut me off in a disrespectful way after getting a girlfriend (who eerily resembles me). My family and friends all unfollowed him—except my sister, who still follows him on her dead dog’s IG. When I called her out, she brushed it off. I feel betrayed and called her out for prioritizing appearances over loyalty. Now she’s stonewalling me. AITA for being upset?