The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/sp4rk1ejumpropequeen on 2025-02-09 04:04:00.

my bf 19M and me 18F have been together for a year, for context when he’s upset he is more avoidant and i am the opposite and weve done this before like he ignores me for days and i beg him to respond (ik childish ive told him we need to work on it but it continues) he was very tired from work this day we were at the movies and i picked a horror movie and it was a bad movie, so we left early because it was just not bearable, i told him to see if we could get a refund and we werent able to, so we leave and as we get to the car he tells me how i shouldve picked a better movie and out of all movies i picked the worst one and i shouldve watched the trailer beforehand so he wouldnt have wasted the money. i went quiet and im usually sensitive, which he knows how sensitive i am as i tell him how im feeling day to day, so this hurt my feelings. he looked at me and begin saying " aww are you gonna cry?" and i just stayed quiet because he usually jokes like this with me once he knows hes hurt my feelings and then begins comforting after he realizes he did. but this time i just stayed quiet and he stopped talking, no comforting.

once we got in the car i began to lash out on him, (i know i messed up) cursing and raising my voice telling him how it hurt my feelings that he blamed me for the bad movie, how i wasted his money, and telling him how he knew he upset me yet didn’t console me at all. he went quiet and got frustrated. i apologized for picking a bad movie and wasting his money and he just said i didnt waste his money and he stayed quiet the whole way. i know i was wrong for lashing out.

i had wanted to go to target for something else after but i told him we could just go home since he was very tired from work, he said no and had an attitude with me the whole way to target. i told him to stay in the car if he was going to have an attitude with me and he said dont tell me what to do.

so after all that we got home and the next day we havent talked at all, i messaged him asking if he was ready to talk and he said sure but never responded again, i apologized and told him how i felt, he still didnt respond, so i called him twice, i know it sounds desperate, and he answered telling me he didn’t want to talk to me and didnt know when he would want to talk to me and it was only a day and he wasn’t sure why he didn’t want to talk to me and didnt know what the problem was. i told him he needed to decide what he wanted and what was best for him because i could not deal with him ghosting me for as long he wanted. am i the asshole? what should i do?