The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/ghostsna7 on 2025-02-09 00:27:01.

ETA: need to clear some things up here. I state in the last paragraph that I do not know if the two year old is the child in question, because the baby sounds a lot younger than this. I also do not live in an apartment. I have stated I live in a terraced house - ‘a house built as part of a continuous row in a uniform style’ - i.e., the houses are all connected and therefore we have connecting walls with two sets of neighbours.

ETA2: my suggestions in the TLDR were fuelled by sleep deprivation and the sound of the child screaming from 1am-2am. So forgive me if they come off as harsh. I never claimed to be a baby expert, I am going off the experience of the 12 younger family members that I have had experience with. Currently writing this edit at 6am, the baby stopped crying hours ago but I have been unable to get back to sleep.

TLDR: I am thinking of showing the neighbour how to swaddle their baby to console it, so that I can get some sleep for once. Either that, or asking them to move the baby’s sleeping quarters downstairs to their living room.

I get it, it’s hard being a parent, but my partner and I both work tedious full time jobs, and cannot cope with being woken up every night by screaming in the next room. The mother doesn’t work, not sure about the father. So I personally don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect one of the parents to do the night shift and get the baby what it needs, whether that’s food, nappy change, or just some comfort. We live in a terraced house, the baby’s room is the one next to our bedroom (it’s a two bed with someone in the other room, so we can’t move to another room). From the sound of the screaming, I was under the impression that the kid was a few months old. When I saw the mother with the children, the youngest looked around 2 years old - so not sure whether it is actually a baby or not. But it screams for over an hour every night, like clockwork. The parents do not make any attempt to console the child, just let it scream until it falls asleep. The walls are so thin that we can hear talking, so can hear the parents whenever they are in that room.

I am making this post to ask for suggestions. I have left my suggestions in the TLDR, are these appropriate? From dealing with a new baby in the family almost every year since I was 6, I am well versed in safe swaddling and how it can soothe a baby. That being said, I am unsure of whether this child has gone past the swaddling stage (see comment above, kid looks older, but might not be the same kid). If it is too old to be swaddled, then I would simply ask the parents to do something about the screaming or move the location of the child.