The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/tiredofbullonline on 2025-02-08 23:40:41.

I (47f) am a disabled woman who relies on my sister (53f) to take me places and she keeps my disability placard in her car… Or did. She just told me today it is not in her car and she has no idea where it is. She then threw my partner (48m) under the bus saying he was the last one she saw with it and didn’t know where he had put it. I asked him and he told me he put it back into the glove compartment. I have seen her sometimes drive with it as she arrived from time to time with it actually hanging on her mirror not in the glove box to which I have told her when I get in that it is illegal for her to drive with it. I will then put it in her box.

But on December 11th was the last time it was seen by my partner. I also know that from the dates 15-22 of December her car was parked at my house because she took me on a cruise for my birthday which was the 22nd. When we got back and she went home she learned her car was unlocked. She couldn’t find the placard and kept this from me until today. It’s not in her car or her apartment. Which means someone checked her doors and got in to the car and stole my placard. My faith in her and trust is broken once again. (Childhood problems.) I don’t want to blast her for the past as we all had shit happening to us by our mother which is here nor there.

Anyways I now have to file a police report (already called, waiting on response.) so I can get a new one (law requirement) and there may be a fee associated with getting a new one. I know I hold some blame for trusting her to keep it safe as I don’t go places with anyone else unless it’s using my mobility. (I wont discuss my disability as it isn’t for everyone to know) Let’s just say my lower half of my body doesn’t work so well. But seeing as she holds the most blame here would I be the a**hole if I make her pay any and all fees associated with getting the new placard?