The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/omnipointed on 2025-01-18 16:25:39.

Good morning everyone, I 18M recently bought myself about 350$ worth of clothing. I work a couple of jobs, but recently have had less shifts as scheduling and things have changed. Regardless, I had about 750$ in my account, (a lot came from christmas and extra holiday shifts) and through the past couple of weeks, I have spent the money on that clothing bringing me down to 400$. Other expenses were so about 230$ Like Gas, food, etc. I had about 170$. My parents take 67% of what I make, putting it towards teaching me saving and budgeting, and if I need “emergency expenses”. And the other 33% would be for my personal spending. I don’t usually spend much on myself, and thought it would be nice to get a new haul of clothes as the ones I currently have no longer fit or have shrunk in the wash. I am still connected to my parents bank account, as they still manage my finances (I don’t have much control over that), so thats how they take my money for the savings and expenses. I use a credit card that is connected to my parents account, and they just take the spent money on the cc out of my spending account. My mother this morning began to yell at me as I was under 500$ in my spending account. I usually hover around 300-400 dollars weekly, and this has not been an issue in the past 4 years of having an account. I have had as low as 90$ in my account and a word was never said, but now, shes yelling at me, claiming that my money isn’t really my money, and also that I don’t and shouldn’t get to spend that much. I go to a local university, and she has agreed to pay my transit fees (about 75$ a month), and my parents still pay for my phone plan. She now, as I am lower on funds, has decided that I should pay for these expenses, and has decided that my original spending amount should be increased to include these fees, and leaving me with ~30$ in my account. She tried to argue that “what if you had other bills to pay” and in which I replied “Is that not what the 67% is for” as under my original thought, the 67% was to show me how to save and pay for bills I would have, and expenses I would have to pay like a home, car, unknown issues, etc. So now, im being scolded for spending my own personal money that I make, and im also losing it all as my mom is going to take the rest of what I have. She also says shes going to take my bank card and credit card, which would leave me no way to pay for any other of my personal expenses. My father says she’s always changing her mind and ill never get a clear answer of what my money is for, so AITA here, and am I in the wrong for spending money that I thought I was allowed to spend?

EDIT: This 67% represents my bills and expenses that I would have in the future such as a mortgage or other bills, but this money is put into a savings account that is for my future. Just to clear that part up, my parents do not take this money for themselves (that I know of) and 33% goes to my chequing account which is supposed to be for my free use