The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/RevolutionaryFoot677 on 2024-04-21 13:43:41.

Using a throwaway because my main account has personal info.

I (F34) have 2 kids (6y, 17mo) with my husband (M37). My husband travels a lot for work and even when he’s here he works very long hours. I WFH and take care of most things, including most communication with his mom (66F). We both make reasonable money so I don’t have it as hard as some people, since we have a full time nanny and weekly cleaner. However, MIL has been driving me crazy ever since she retired.

She was never a bright or nice woman but ever since covid she got into conspiracy theories and is quite aggressive about it. Usually we agree to disagree and don’t talk about politics and all these things. I specifically forbad her talking this shit in front of my kids. She knows it 100%, it was explained to her countless times.

MIL is single and retired. She basically expects us to entertain her at least 2-3 days a week. Kids don’t really like her so I usually plan something fun for them. Last week she took 6yo to a mini zoo and a pancake place (which I planned and paid for). He came back very upset and soon started crying, asking why we poisoned him as a baby (vaccines). He was also scared of Soros (George Soros I assume). I told him not to believe everything grandma says because she is senile and explained it in age appropriate way. ‘Senile’ was not the exact word used as we spoke in our countries language but the meaning is very similar.

I did not confront MIL about this because it’s impossible to reason with her. Instead, I decided to never leave her with the kids unsupervised again. So when she came over, nanny was present and I informed her she was welcome to spend time with the kids but is not allowed to take them anywhere and nanny is going to be in the room the whole time too. MIL started arguing angrily and my son told her ‘grandma, nanny is here to watch us while mommy works, it’s for your own good too because you’re senile and we’re just kids’.

Long story short, MIL lost her shit, yelled at me for telling my son she was senile, both kids started crying they were scared because we never yell at home. I firmly told her to leave my house, then followed her outside and told her I’m done with her. Don’t call me or come here when I’m home or I’ll call the police. Everything she needs like money, help with errands or seeing grandkids from now on she is to ask her son. She did not take it well and I had to threaten to call the police again.

Husband is currently overseas in a different time zone so it’s not easy to communicate. MIL and his sister have been texting him god knows what, basically claiming I’m satan. He’s understandably irritated and told me I should have handled this better. I told him it shouldn’t even be my problem as she’s his mom, not mine, to which he agreed but is still unhappy I could not avoid open conflict. AITA?