The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/TrainCatchThrowaway on 2024-04-21 13:27:41.

So basically, wife and I were in a rush to catch our subway train to go to a brunch with my parents at our favorite restaurant. We were already 10 minutes late, and my parents are always super punctual and I didn’t want to keep them waiting any longer for us.

As we approach the escalator down to our subway platform, I can hear our train approaching. So, I tell my wife that we need to catch the train, and we both hurry down the escalator, me in front of her. When we got to the bottom, I heard the subway door chimes, indicating that the doors were about to close. So, I rushed into the train at the last moment, but my wife was left on the platform of the other side.

I thought, okay, well this sucks that I made the train but my wife didn’t. But it’s not really a big deal because we both know exactly where we are going, and it’s only 5 stops away. I will just meet her at the restaurant. (I don’t get any cell service underground, so we couldn’t communicate with each other)

So I arrive at the restaurant alone and greet my parents, who immediately question me about where my wife is. I told them what happened, and they didn’t really seem to think much of it. But when she gets there 20 minutes later, she is all angry at me for not getting off the train at the next stop and waiting for her there, then getting on that train and continuing together. It made for a bit of an uncomfortable brunch, because we could all tell there was tension. After the brunch on our way home, she explained why she was mad and then became all short with me and pretty much gave me silence the rest of the way home.

My position is that we both knew where we were going and she knew my parents are easily irritated when I arrive late, so why would I have gotten off the train to wait for her unnecessarily?

So AITA?

Edit: Wow, so many people here just assuming New York is the only city in the world that has a subway… I’ve never even been to America lol.

Edit 2: Yes, everyone, I am acutely aware that my judgement is I am an asshole. Thank you for all your contributions! I have apologized to my wife profusely and came home with flowers for her. Clearly even before writing this post, I apologized numerous times to her… At the restaurant, on the way home, and hours afterwards. I’m usually a passive person and I don’t like having conflict, so I literally apologize just to avoid conflict, even when I think I am correct (and I know in this case I am not). You can all make your judgements around my marriage and how I am undeserving, but you’ve read a few sentences on the internet to make that determination.