The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Muted_Pangolin_4770 on 2024-12-23 01:25:20.

Update due to comments: I will leave a letter for them, I won’t say anything bad on it, just that I’m leaving and I will be fine. Other people of my family are helping me too.

POV: I have been living with my older sister, her husband, and niece (1yo) for the past 2 and a half years, and things have gone out of control.

So, I have been living with them because they live in another country, and they invited me to live with them to complete my MBA here. I came, and the first 6 months were okay. Since I’m on a student VISA, I can’t work, and they knew and told me I didn’t need to worry about rent or food. Then, my sister became pregnant, and she changed for the worst, saying that I wasn’t doing anything and that I needed to work unofficially somehow. And she told me that I could work at their company, OK, I did that and worked at their company (what they weren’t expecting is that I’m excellent so I got “promoted” in a month and completely changed for the better the department I was now in charge). But she was still in my ass, saying I needed to do more because she was pregnant so that she couldn’t do much, and my brother-in-law was working (like I wasn’t working and studying for my MBA, which, thank god, I was only getting As). Everything went to shit after my niece was born; my sister was always screaming with everyone, making me babysit all the time, going groceries shop because her husband was working, and always saying that I should be grateful because I had a place to live and eat. Then she and him (without asking me) agreed that when the baby woke up, I would be with her until my sister woke up (she would wake up at 10-11)because her husband would leave for work, and they stayed all night taking care of her. So, one day, when she was getting angry with me again that I didn’t like living with them, I should just move, and I said, "Well, if you pay my salary, I will gladly leave; her response? “We will never pay you because your salary doesn’t cover what you eat and where you live.” (oh yes, they really never paid me; they gave me a company credit card that they kept tabs on what and where I spent it). So, after her response I got furious and told her “well then maybe we should add the amount you should have paid me for babysitting your daughter.” So she threw me out, called my mother, who was on my side, and told her to never say anything like that again to me. One month later, guess what? She got pregnant AGAIN! So, I’m done being their housemaid and babysitter because I don’t have time to study, I don’t have a car because I don’t have income, and I don’t have any friends to go out with because I don’t have time. So now my sister has her new baby on the 24th, and I called my uncle and asked for financial help, and he said he would help. I had to leave before they returned from the hospital, and I already had a place at my university to stay, and he would help me until I finally got my work license. And neither my sister nor my brother-in-law knows any of this. Am I the asshole?