The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Substantial-Exam-629 on 2024-12-22 23:53:45.
Throwaway because my siblings follow my main account. I (18NB) am getting my sister (15F) a chocolate box for Christmas this year because for years now she has not bothered with my gifts at all, Christmas or birthday. Usually she gives me stuff she’s been gifted in the past like bathbombs or makeup which I can’t use due to skin irritation and also feeling gender dysphoria when I wear makeup. She is well aware of this as I politely tell her when I open the presents. She doesn’t have a job and therefore no income which she uses as an excuse despite the fact our parents give her quite a bit of money to buy people gifts for Christmas and birthdays. Last Christmas, she got our stepsister the dress and book she had asked for whereas I got an eyeshadow palette that I had seen her using the week prior and I notebook I had given her for school which she hadn’t used. I thanked her for it but later reminded her that I couldn’t use the makeup. She shrugged and said “well at least I got you something”.
What upsets me the most is our dad has a whole thing about us getting gifts for relatives that have a lot of thought and meaning. I say us but it seems this rule only applies to me. I get her the things she asks for every birthday and Christmas. I pay attention when she mentions wanting something in passing and make sure to get it for her when her birthday and Christmas come up. She doesn’t.
A few weeks ago, I did my Christmas shopping and I knew she wanted two specific posters for her room but decided because she has made little to no effort for me, I would get her a box of chocolates from Hotel Chocolat. I got a type of box she has said she likes in the past though just because I didn’t want to be an utter jerk.
This evening (the 22nd of December) we were having dinner and my sister mentioned she was going out tomorrow to do last minute Christmas shopping. I said “are you actually going to get me something you’ve never owned this year?” as a joke which I realise I shouldn’t have. She said “what’s that supposed to mean?” and I mentioned how she never puts effort into any of my gifts where I always do. Then I said “well, as I always did” which was a bit of a dick move on my part. She asked me what I meant and kept demanding to know what I got her for Christmas despite me telling her it would ruin the surprise. Our dad chimed in and demanded to know what I got her so I said “a chocolate box from Hotel Chocolat”. She went off at me saying that she didn’t want a chocolate box, she wanted posters and I responded “you never bother with my gifts, why should I do the same?”. My dad is saying I need to go out tomorrow and my sister is calling me selfish and ungrateful. I feel quite childish and have apologised to her but she doesn’t care. I just want to know AITA for getting her a chocolate box for Christmas?