The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/TypicalBeat4356 on 2024-12-22 15:56:39.

AITA for telling my husband in front of his father that I can’t make an early Christmas dinner? A little backstory: I planned on making a christmas dinner on Christmas day. My parents and 2 of my siblings and their spouses are supposed to come over. These plans were made several weeks ago. My husband’s father lives in another state,but is here visiting and taking care of some family business. His wife passed away recently, so he’s alone.He has been invited to spend Christmas with us,but wants to spend it with some of his other children. He plans to leave Tuesday. He has been having dinner with us almost nightly for the last several days. Last night at dinner, my husband says to his dad, " We’re going to have an early Christmas Monday so we can spend it with you. " I responded and told him that I can’t make that happen.I told him we could do a nice dinner but that I can’t make 2 Christmas feasts back to back. I woke up this morning with the intention of asking him to communicate better with me so this could be avoided in the future. His response was that he didn’t intend for me to make a huge dinner and I shouldn’t have assumed that. He also said I embarrassed him by telling him in front of his dad that I couldn’t do an early Christmas. It’s also important to note that last week when he found out his dad would be here he told him what I would be cooking that evening and called me after the fact. I had to quickly change my plans to accommodate what my husband had promised. I feel as though he could run things by me first and communicate better. Should I have kept my mouth shut in front of his dad?? AITA??