The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/ihavedumbQs on 2024-12-03 18:48:19.

My (mid 20s) mom (60s) doesn’t really use email that much but has emails set up. She knows how to use email.

I bought plane tickets for her recently and she asked if I could put down my email so that I could print out her itenerary for her and give it to her tomorrow afternoon (which is when I’ll be seeing her anyways), since I’m better at computers than her and it would be quicker. I agreed. Just before I paid she asked if I could give her my email password so that she can check the tickets before tomorrow afternoon. I suggested that I forward it to her email or just put down her own email address instead. She got pissed off about how I don’t trust her, that trust is a 2 way street, that I’m a backstabbing fucker, and that she should just change all her bank account passwords so that I don’t have access to them anymore.

For context, she gave me her passwords a while ago so that I have easier access to her assets in case anything happens to her unexpectedly. I’ve never logged into her accounts and don’t know her passwords off the top of my head. When I was in my teens, she had gotten a hold of my phone password and had previously gone through my phone, and deleted apps/photos. I feel uncomfortable about giving her my digital passwords since then. She also has my bank account password just in case - I trust her with that but not with my digital passwords.

AITA to choose to not give her my email password, or should I have sucked it up and given it to her?

TLDR my mom and I both have each other’s bank account passwords for safekeeping. My mom got mad that I wouldn’t give her my email password. AITA?

Edit: thanks for all the responses so far, folks. I don’t think her priority is to snoop, but if she saw something interesting or gossip worthy, I wouldn’t be surprised if she goes ahead and reads the relevant email chain(s)