The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/EffectiveOld5148 on 2024-12-02 11:08:04.

I work (lucrative and well-paid job outside Prague), she does a lot of activities (work, teaches singing, dancing, has her mom with her) If you have a long-distance relationship with a woman ( 5 years ), where up to now you have been seeing each other regularly, arranged trips, holidays, visited each other regularly as much as possible (3× weekends a month), you write each other daily, how is it, what the person in question just did, what upset him at work, etc.

One day in November I called her: Hi, can we arrange a holiday now December? she wrote:

Sorry, I’ll have to deal with my sick sister, I have some health complications anyway, I have to deal with my aunt and uncle in far away, they are in a bad condition, I also need to deal with work…

But I became suspicious and called from the other number to the company where she works. I found out that since October she knows that she is flying to Cuba for 14 days in December, without mentioning it and kept me on the information about her health and the health of the rest of the family…

So yesterday she was sending me smiley faces again, how she loves me, kisses etc… She doesn’t know, that I know.

Should I text her on vacation? Or wait till she gets home and tell her to her face? AITA for calling secretly into her company?