The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/gently_anxious on 2024-10-28 20:25:01.

Hi, first time poster long time reader. For background: My (23 F) friend group of about 6 people was very close. Like, close to the point of coming over to the house with no warning and going straight to the fridge type.

Among those, Frankie (24 F) and I became besties. We did EVERYTHING together. This was fine since Frankie dated Joel (25 M). Our other friends were also coupled off leaving me and Nick (24 M) as the odd one’s out. Nick and I had a situationship for a year and a half with him living with me since he didn’t have a job or housing. Long story short, that ended really messy and I have a new partner now that supports me. Anyway, I noticed Frankie and Nick getting closer since our breakup. It didn’t bother me but it did make me raise an eyebrow since they didn’t like each other much while Nick and I dated. Barely texted, called, and only saw each other because of me. It got to the point of Frankie and I having tension because we would be hanging out and he’s blowing up her phone asking when she coming over or when he could come over.

The big issue came because the friend group took Nick’s side when we broke up except for Frankie. Frankie was my ride-or-die and we talked about anything. I asked Frankie to hang out and she agreed. Found out that the rest of the group, including Nick, was also coming since the hang out would be at her place. I told her to make sure it was cool with everyone for Nick and I to be in the same room since the breakup was not pretty and there’s still hurt feelings. She calls him with me present to ask and he goes into a rant about how I was a terrible gf to him (he never asked me out) and how when we went to Walmart, someone was gonna beat me with a bat?? The whole situation threw me off and Frankie and I distanced. In my mind, how can you be so comfortable with someone talking so much crap about me while claiming to be my bestie? Frankie and I decided to move past it and started talking again. We were getting back comfortable when I noticed the same pattern with Nick! At this time, Frankie and I had each other on Life360. I’m getting notifications in my sleep about her going to his house at 11 PM and arriving home at 2-3 AM daily. I’m confused and like huh? Then, she randomly drops out of the Life360 circle and mentions nothing of it. Last week, I just got tired of the confused and asked her if she and Nick were having an affair. I stated my concerns and that I didn’t want this to be like a slight on her character but with the way it’s looking…it’s not looking well.

I got cussed out and told we need space. AITA for asking?