The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/One-Badger-3793 on 2024-10-13 09:13:03.

For a little context before i go into why I don’t let him use my bathroom; My bathroom is technically the family bathroom however typically its just me my mom and my fiancé living at my mamas house (me and my fiancé are young parents and dont have the financial means currently to have our own apartment but my mom doesn’t mind as Im her youngest and she wants me to stay as long as I need to, atleast for a year until our baby is a little older) My bathroom is in the hallway of our house and my mamas room has its own bathroom, as most master bedrooms in a two story house do.

Edit for Clarification before the story; My mama asked us to stay with her for atleast a year after our baby was born so that we can get settled and figure out (more of me figure out as my fiance had a baby sister he basically raised from birth) how to parent and navigate life with this new major change as well as us being as young as we are along with NO this was not a planned pregnancy

Heres where the issues start, My babys nursery is my old bedroom and also my stepdads old office, he insists on sleeping in my babys nursery which currently isnt an issue as my baby is in the ICC however I do not want him sleeping in there when my baby comes home, he has argued with me that ‘someone should sleep with the baby’ I truly dont understand why he doesn’t sleep with my mom as she even bought a bigger bed to fit her him and the two pups, he claims that my baby’s nursery is where anyone whos sick should sleep to not get my mama sick, that also doesn’t make sense to me, why expose a baby to sickness willingly? He regularly uses my bathroom which I wouldnt have an issue with however, despite being 60, he pees on the floor REGULARLY, Ive never had that issue with my bio-dad or my fiancé (both male) I tried setting a boundary with him 4 YEARS ago not to use my bathroom as he regularly trashes it and I have very bad sensory issues and tend to be quite germaphobic, I find it incredibly disrespectful that he can even clean up after himself and also that he disrespects my mama like this because she went out of her way to make things easier for all of us with him being home, hes usually on deployment (not military) so its not an issue typically but every time he comes home he “forgets” my boundaries and trashes my bathroom which leads to a breakdown for me as Im the one who has to clean his mess :(

So AITA for not letting him use my bathroom?

Small Edit: This all came to a head when I came home from the hospital after giving birth and there was pee all over my floor and hair everywhere, not mine as I cleaned before I was admitted, so I went from a very clean place (the hospital) and came home to a mess when I know I didnt leave it that way. Along with, not sure if this is relevant or not, he HATES my fiancé for some odd reason, theyve hardly interacted as my stepdads never typically here, but hes been giving us both dirty looks since coming home and it makes me feel unwelcomed in my mamas house where I’ve lived since I was 6 years old

A little more context: The only reason I could think he dislikes my fiancé so much is because my fiancé very politely honestly asked him to stop doing something during an OB appointment that we invited him to (per my mamas request) during the entire appointment my stepdad was acting like a child along with trying to tell the doctors they didnt know what they were talking about because “I went to medical school” hes literally a history major, he then went to my mama saying “no kid should yell at me like that” My fiancé never raised his voice, there wasnt aggression or malice in his tone he just politely asked him to stop.