The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Otherwise-General31 on 2024-10-12 23:40:18.

So I do not want to be a bridesmaid for my older sister. For many reasons:

  1. I have already been her bridesmaid before at her first wedding almost 3 years ago. It wasn’t the best relationship nor was the best person in my eyes.

The longest relationship she had was 2 years with a dude named… Brant. So she dated Brant then cheated on him with his friend called Ashton. They had this affairs for a few months before he found out and then broke it off. She kicked out Brant and moved Ashton in with a week. I told her maybe to use this time to keep Ashton at a distance, find herself and have him as a roommate or find a smaller apartment as her lease was almost up, and realize that she doesn’t NEED a man to survive but have a partner because she loves them. Destination wedding gone wrong. Two days before the wedding I had over heard him and her yelling and she said verbatim “I don’t want to marry you”.

  1. I was not asked. She expected it and just dropped it in a conversation. I have asked my younger brothers (20 and 21) if they don’t mind being I’m MY wedding party. I had planned my sister and brother (27) to not be in it.

  2. She has stolen my own wedding ideas. To be honest this is the most reason why I don’t want to. One of the ideas was my and my gfs Wedding March. It’s an opening to a game that my gf and I have bonded over (it was what started our friendship) and are planing to incorporate in our wedding along with another franchise that usually goes hand in hand (congratulations to those that figure it out 👏). I had planned it as mine when I was 16 and then told her to her when I was 18, and then again, during her talks about her own wedding (long before the first). We would talk about it together and I guess she decided to use it. Without talking to me.

The theme of her wedding was elvin LOTR style but on the beach. I didn’t know until it started to play (badly mind you) on her wedding. I had glanced at my gf at the time and say her livid. It was a special song to me and it’s a VERY special song to her. Afterwards my gf pulled me aside and said she was going to do it better while I didn’t want to use it at all as I felt it was disrespectful if I did. Then, I get a call from my sister telling me her idea for her wedding and also that I was in her wedding party.

My idea for my wedding was wedding with our esthetic then, at the reception, it could be a cosplay party. My gf and I have planned this for 3 years. In this talk she said she was going to have a cosplay reception. But renaissance style. When I asked where she got the idea she said I had said I was going to do it and thought it was a good idea.

I am livid. I don’t want to be a bridesmaid. Especially after the last hellfire the last one was. So reddit would I be the AH?

Edit: Weddings are important. I shouldn’t be bringing my feelings into such a special occasion