The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Usual_Jackfruit_8896 on 2024-10-13 13:34:08.
My boyfriend (23m) and I (20f) have been together for a few months. Recently my best friends brother get arrested on a dwi charge ( little backstory- when we first started hanging out my best friend brother decided it was a good idea to use me to see if he was over his ex, then have nothing to do with me afterwards. We are still cordial with each other but that’s as far as it goes.). Well, my best friends brother wanted me to got pick up his things from another friend of ours, claiming that she trusted me with his stuff more than her. I told me boyfriend this and he said that I wasn’t his girl and that if he gave his stuff to her there was no reason to go and get it. I respected that so I ended up tell her that I couldn’t pick it up (which was perfect since she wouldn’t give her address). The next day he ended up getting released at 11pm so my best friend wanted me to go drive by to make sure he was ok. I told her that I wouldn’t interact with him in any way nor would I give him a ride anywhere due to my boyfriend being uncomfortable with it. I was purely driving by and making sure he made it ok. My boyfriend ended up calling and when I told him what I was doing he get rather upset. He stated I had disregarded his previous statement knowing there was nothing he could do about it. Am I the asshole???
Update: my best friend lives in Alaska so she was unable to check on him herself. He gave his phone to another friend of there’s and I didn’t have her number to communicate with. Also I didn’t know that I was a rebound until several weeks after we hookup ( and yes his sister knows, she didn’t have a problem with it). Furthermore, I am in no way “searching” for an opportunity to be with him. The only times I’ve hung out with him were when I was with my best friend, since they use to live together. If I was really as hung up on this dude I wouldn’t be in a relationship to begin with. She moved back to Alaska in September and If I was really pining I would still be hanging out with him, which I don’t