The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/throwra87910 on 2024-10-12 15:14:43.

To keep it short and sweet, my wife has moved on after years of us having a bad marriage. I decided to try and reconcile this summer not knowing or realizing she was already involved with someone else. We still live together. We do day to day life together. We depend on one another. Despite all of that she’s adamant that she’s no longer married and she wants a divorce. I’ve been coping with it as best I can but it’s been a really painful experience.

To make matters worse she’s not very good at concealing her plans so I found out that she’s planning to spend her bday weekend with this man. She’s been down playing it and asking why I can’t watch the kids for her and my response is I’m not in space to watch the children for your BAEday Weekend. It’s all too soon and too much for me honestly.

As a result she’s upset and feels like I’m putting a damper on her weekend. I told her months ago to properly prepare and have sitters because I’d likely be out of town myself. I need to get as far away from her as possible and busy myself so I don’t think about it as much.

So let me know. AITA? Childish? Petty? If the shoe was on the other foot she’s already said she wouldn’t do it. What about you all?