The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/thercery on 2024-10-12 13:46:45.

So…

Me (30,F) and my roommate and long-time best friend (31, F) share a house. It largely works. We have our ups and downs. Lately it’s mostly her misinterpreting my neutral and making them into downs, and me doing vice versa. We’re working on it and just shared Chinese food and are otherwise quite good at squashing beef.

BUT. A few nights ago I found the probable source of a long-standing fly problem. We have had flies throughout our three-floor house for awhile now, but especially in the kitchen and basement. We’ve been combating it. She buys tools and traps, and I find the little places they hide and clean them. We are a vicious and effective team.

However, I found that the Litter Genie receptacle she uses for our downstairs litter box was FULL of both flies and gnats. They coated the top of the lid. I pulled it out, opened it up, gagged, and ran upstairs. I refused to go back down and emphasized that this was her fault and it needs to be addressed. She said she’d get to it after her workday. I said " well, there’s currently a huge amount of flies NOW" and she hopped off of her work desk and addressed it. She was passive aggressive the whole evening after, but owned up that yeah she probably should’ve been more attentive. Mind you, I’ve never been on board with the whole “keep the shit in a container for ages because it’s easy! :D” concept, and have told her, multiple times, that I don’t like it.

I emphatically told her I have always thought the Litter Genie was a stupid product; she replied that it wasn’t, but that it got bad because the bags are expensive and she didn’t replace them like she should. I insisted she SHOULD throw them away, but reassured that I can’t control what she does/won’t do it myself and won’t force a change.

We still have the Litter Genie. In theory it’s going to be better; I’ve promised to work harder to take on some of the load of multiple daily scoops.

But man. Shit sitting in a bucket seems like a fly trap regardless, and I KEEP. TRYING. to tell her. It’s like it’s bouncing off a wall.

A day later we had a conversation about sharing responsibilities/helping with daily tasks, and she let slip at the end of an otherwise-productive and civil talk that she “doesn’t have her hopes up” when I stated that I’d stop being as lazy as I’d been and pick up more of the slack. I asked why the f*ck she’d say that and told her it made the entire conversation prior seem like a bad-faith waste of time.

AITA for harshly asking her to admit to her mistake, fix our huge fly problem, throw away the obvious source of our fly issue? Am I in the wrong for insisting we both need to step up?