The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/rob-her-dinero on 2024-10-12 04:40:23.

I (29M) went with my friend (37F) and my husband (28M) to see a movie last night - specifically Terrifier 3. If you aren’t familiar with the movies, they are horror films that focus a lot on the blood and gore and consistently push the envelope with their graphic practical effects. The first one was already pretty uncomfortable, the second was disgusting, and going into the third one I knew was going to be even more over-the-top. I loved the first two, though, and if the films escalated in the same way or at the same pace, the third would have been a blast.

However, without spoiling it, the first 20-30 minutes of the movie was some of the most uncomfortable media I have ever consumed. While the first two balanced the horrific violence with a creepy villain and lots of humor, the opening of this movie was just bleak and exploitative shock value for the sake of shock value - the kind made just for people to say “I watched Terrifier 3 and liked it because that stuff doesn’t bother me” and it’s a red flag. If you have ever seen or heard of A Serbian Film, kind of like that.

Honestly the remaining 90 minutes was great. Disgusting, and definitely far more intense than the first two, but in the way I was expecting and excited for. Unfortunately, because the first part was so upsetting, I was overwhelmed and exhausted. I had a hard time letting go of that and enjoying the depravity.

Leaving the theater, I was silent. I did not have a good time and I didn’t really want to talk about the film. However, my husband and my friend were both raving about it - how funny it was, how disgusting it was, discussing the parts that made them cover their eyes or squirm. And I was just silent.

When we got in the car, I told my husband that I did not have a good time and was kind of surprised by his and my friend’s reactions. He explained why he enjoyed it and said I sounded a bit judgmental. I told him no, just didn’t like it.

But really I am judging both of them - especially my friend for how much she was laughing throughout the film, including the most unnecessary parts. I just don’t understand finding enjoyment out of some of the scenes in the opening, and I don’t think it’s normal. But also, my husband says I just shouldn’t have gone to see the movie if I couldn’t handle some of the content in it, and that I can’t judge someone for enjoying it.

So, am I the asshole for judging my friend?