The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ecstatic-Nectarine-2 on 2024-10-12 04:34:14.

I’m a gay man, I met a guy in a bar on Thursday that I recognized. He came and started chatting, I very much enjoyed the convo and asked him back to my place afterward. He came over, we were both pretty drunk, drank more, passed out and then did some light fooling around the next morning. I made him food and he left around 2pm, and I told him that maybe I’d text him later that night to see what he was up to. I did around 10 and he wanted to see me again. I said I wasn’t sure and was just trying to make convo. I finally said he could come over (but mentioned nothing about cuddling or sex) and he said “be there in 10.” I asked him to please wait until midnight bc I had to run to the store. He agreed, but then showed up at 11:40pm anyway. This was annoying to me, but whatever, it’s fine. When he walks in, I can tell he has been drinking all day. He is slurring, repeating stories over and over, and won’t stop kissing and touching me. I tell him it’s a little much and ask him to cool it and put on a movie. It stops for about 35 seconds and then continues. He finally mentions something about cuddling and I said “about that, I’m really sorry man, but I’m just not feeling it tonight. I think I need to sleep alone tonight.” He immediately gets up, goes to the bathroom, and then leaves. He starts texting me “go fuck yourself, you’re a douche. You’re a dumbass, I’ve had a rough week, how dare you do that to me,” etc. I again apologized, told him I would like to see him again, but that tonight just wasn’t our night. We haven’t spoken since. I was sooo relieved when he left but I feel bad bc I didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. My friends are mostly on my side but some have said I should have known he wanted to stay and shouldn’t have let him come over if I didn’t want him to. What do you think? Am I the asshole?