The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/EffectiveEconomist62 on 2024-10-03 20:38:29.

I (F43) am supposed to be going to a festival with my boyfriend (M42) and his best friend (M45) this weekend but I told my boyfriend I don’t want to go because I’m worried about his friend touching me and it makes me feel uncomfortable. In the past he has done things like massaging my back or tickling my feet and I try to move away to get him to stop. But when I tell my boyfriend that I don’t like it he tells me that his friend is just trying to be friendly with me. I don’t know if it’s a culture thing as I’m English and they are Spanish but I have told my boyfriend many times I don’t like it but I think he’s embarrassed to pass the message onto his friend. To put into context, three years ago when I first started dating my boyfriend his friend also said inappropriate things, like at the water park he told me I could get changed in front of them, and at a party he pointed to the bedroom and said if my boyfriend wasn’t satisfying me he could show me how it’s done. But he hasn’t said anything like that in the last couple of years thank goodness. Again when I told my boyfriend about those statements he said his friend was just joking, although he has admitted that if he said something like that now after we’ve been together all this time that he’d be a bit annoyed.