The original post: /r/amitheasshole by /u/Kelsey_dagger on 2024-05-21 03:22:16.
Today is my (F) 35th birthday. In general I don’t love my birthday because growing up my parents would always throw us parties and fight and complain about how expensive they were, etc. So basically I feel like celebrating myself is a burden. Anyway, I’ve been happier to celebrate it these past few years because I’m trying hard to allow myself to.
I am married and have two kids (5, 9). Four days ago I had surgery to remove a 9cm endometrioma from my ovary. Doctor was supposed to also remove my ovary but couldn’t because it’s fused to my bowels and abdominal wall. I feel pretty exhausted, still have some pain, still mentally dealing with knowing there’s more to come. I also recently lost my job because the hospital system I worked for closed its mental health clinic. Basically I could really use a win. (Thankfully have another job lined up, just waiting to fully recover to start!)
Anyway, my husband has to take the kids to school this week despite me being unemployed because I can’t lift our five year old if necessary and I’m still iffy on driving. This morning I woke up to him fighting with her because she wanted me to get her ready and she was refusing to go to school. That’s a whole other topic but I came downstairs to diffuse the situation. Was downstairs for a half an hour- No one wished me a happy birthday. Ultimately my daughter wouldn’t get ready and my husband decided it was easier to let her stay home with me and call her out of school than put forth the effort to get her ready and to school because I could just deal with her. I was fucking PISSED.
I am exhausted. I am in pain. I need to rest. Can’t do that with a five year old at home. I just wanted to read, nap, lay out, all of which is what I should be doing to recover. Plus I just wanted to have a day of peace to myself on my birthday after all of the shit life has thrown at me lately.
His attitude got even worse tonight and I told him I was sick of it and I was disappointed he ruined my birthday. He didn’t take that well. AITA for being pissed he left her home, continued to be negative (like every word that came out of his mouth was a complaint), and telling him he ruined my day?